My feelings exactly. Image courtesy of theodysseyonline.com
I reckon that the title of this post has given away my feelings on people of different races and cultures dating and having romantic relationships.
A few years ago on the website HubPages.com I wrote about seeing a young teenage couple at a bus stop one day, doing the typical teenage couple thing; kissing, cuddling, etc.
The thing that appealed to me about that twosome was that she was Latina and he was an African-American, giving me a good feeling that relationships in which the people involved are a different race/ethnic group/culture are more accepted in the present day then when that Loving vs Virginia case was going down in 1967.
Unfortunately – and especially in the current cultural atmosphere triggered by the election of this country’s President-Who-I-Refuse-To-Name – there are plenty of folks who are completely against Miscegenation; folks who have the view that different races and ethnicities should never mix romantically, which includes Asians, Latinos, Pacific Islanders, and Jewish people as well as blacks and whites.
I remember back in high school having a crush on a Persian girl; to make a long story short, when I tried to call her, her mother angrily rebuffed me, me not knowing that a big part of Persian culture is for them and their children to only be “with their own”.
Of course I saw – and still see – that as plain old bigotry.
In fact, I’ll be perfectly honest…
While as a black man, I want to emphasize that this is no way whatsoever implying that I have anything against African-American females as I have a list of black women and girls that I had a crush on over the years, including Clueless’ Stacey Dash (her politics notwithstanding), The Facts of Life‘s Kim Fields, and especially Michelle Thomas, who played Urkel’s obsessive girlfriend on the TV show Family Matters and who tragically didn’t make it to the age of 30, dying of cancer before reaching that age,
I have always been attracted to females of all races and ethnic groups as their personality and integrity has far more importance in my book than the color of their skin and how they worship God.
Basing my romantic interest choices by initial physical attraction (unfortunately, that’s a natural reality) and – more importantly – “the content of their character”, to quote Martin Luther King, is something that I have always emphasized.
In fact, I’ve always felt that to limit my dating/relationship options to strictly “my own kind”, as too many people, particularly social conservatives and right-wing types, would prefer to do, would not only be akin submitting myself to a voluntary Jim Crow-segregation,
I would feel straitjacketed, limited, and bored.
When it comes to love, a mate should be chosen based on one’s heart and soul rather than skin pigmentation and cultural/ethnic sameness.
They say that “The heart wants what the heart wants” , and I’ll always strongly believe that anything between two individuals that is loving and affectionate should be appreciated and celebrated.
Which was why it gives me a feeling of gladness whenever I see interracial couples out there; it’s real good to see that race, ethnicity and culture in dating is far less of an issue for millennials than for previous generations.
My suggestion to all those couples out there who are given dirty looks or nasty comments because their skin color or ethnicity is different:
Just say this to those folks:
“Love sees no color, because there is only one race – the human race.”
Or tell them,
“You have a right to feel that way, but you know what? It’s SO none of your business!”
Which it isn’t!
Or better yet, just ignore them.
Now this is a great picture of a truly gorgeous family. Photo courtesy of triadmomsonmain.com